Hitting a Wall on Your Journey Home

What to do when you reach a dead end.....

Folks, this last month has felt like moving through quicksand. My astrology friends tell me the Eclipse was to blame. But who am I to blame anyone or anything?

I will perhaps write about the happenings of the last month at a later time when they are in the rearview mirror. 

Today, in this short newsletter I want to talk to you about reaching a dead-end on your Journey Home. Because it will happen. On your road to self-discovery, there will come a moment (or perhaps already has) when you may reach a dead-end. 

This is particularly interesting to me because months ago in a meditation, I saw myself walking a dark, narrow, and circular path holding a lamp in my hand. I reach a wall in this vision and get extremely agitated because I can’t find a way out. I somehow knew that I couldn’t turn back. So there I was with the tiny glow of the lamp, facing a wall, fear rising like bile in my throat.

I chalked that vision to what I usually tell myself “My mind made that up.”

Did I? Or was I having some kind of a Psychic Vision? I don’t know. But I have thought a lot about it in the last month. 

I once heard Anne Lamott define this feeling as “no good ideas left” in a podcast interview with Tim Ferris. It’s a good one if you ever want to listen. 

If there is one thing you can count on we humans is having ideas. I am clicking on this Google doc, which will become a Substack Article because the people involved in creating everything that makes this task possible first had an idea.

The crowning achievement of the human race and what makes us “superior” (I say that in quotes) to let’s say dogs is not our opposable thumbs but the evolution of our frontal lobe. We can ideate, think, create. 

(But let’s be honest, I prefer my dog over many human beings.)

So when we have “no good ideas left”, we have reached the dead-end of a dead-end.

When backing up is not an option and you have no tools to break through that wall, it’s better to create a window. Maybe even a tiny one. 

This is when we have to do one thing women are not so great at. 

Asking for Help.

It is then time to admit that we cannot continue on this Journey on our own. Someone has to slip over the tools to us, one by one, so we can craft your very own door. 

Who can you ask for help?

A therapist is always a good idea. But if that’s not something you can do right now, it can be a coach, a guide, a friend, your spouse, or your trusted neighbor. 

And I know how incredibly hard it is for us to say “I need help” but often that is exactly what we need to say to someone. Three words. Simple. Vulnerable. Full of Strength and Hope. 

I.Need. Help

Don’t turn out the light of that lamp and engulf yourself in darkness. It is not required. Bring it closer to the wall and whisper (or scream) “I need help”. Slowly yet surely, a window will appear. 

At least I think so. I hope so. I’ll keep you posted. 

❤️

Deepshikha